PUSHMORE!

I look around and see many rich people. I see many fit people too. BUT I don't see many FIT rich people. It seems that while we work hard to achieve our millions we tend to let ourselves go when it comes to keeping fit! Let's face it  - it's not often you find a fit billionaire! The most common excuses are - NO TIME or NO MONEY!

It's time we got serious about our physical health and made working out a priority as well. No more excuses. If you have a sport that you enjoy, make it a point to play that sport as often as you think you need to - to get into shape. If you've tried sports but they don't give you the results you want then check out PUSHMORE. 

Pushmore is a gym with a difference. I joined them a year ago - lost 6 kgs in a blink of an eye and got fitter, faster and stronger. So I strongly suggest you guys check it out. They're really affordable and best of all the workouts only take about 15 mins!

Here's a before and after pic of me.

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Craziness isn't so bad!

"I AM SO HAPPY I EMPOWER MILLIONS OF PEOPLE"

When people hear me say that out loud they look at me like i'm CRAZY! 

And the reason they think i'm crazy is because they think that you shouldn't shout out your goal like you've ALREADY achieved it unless of course you have already achieved it! It just doesn't make sense... That's what we've been taught haven't we? Say it as it is!

So instead of saying it like we've already got it we say... I WANT TO EARN A MILLION DOLLARS!

But saying it as it is - DOESN'T WORK. You gotta be a bit crazy to achieve what others think is crazy!

The reason I say it like I've already got it is simply because the Law of Attraction LITERALLY gives you what your thought focuses on. If your thought is focused on WANTING your goal then your thought attracts the experience of WANTING! NOT HAVING! You think it makes sense to ask for something (politely) coz that's what you've been taught at school. But the universe couldn't give a rat's ass if you are polite or not. It literally gives you what your mind focuses on. Which means that as long as you keep saying you want something the Universe will make sure you experience the wanting. It will never fully give you your goal because that would not allow you to experience wanting your goal!

On the other hand, if you say it like you ALREADY HAVE it then your thought is focused on HAVING your goal. Since your thoughts attract your results, the Universe works very quickly to give you the experience of HAVING your goal! It works it magic as illustrated by the law of attraction to give you the experience of having!

It may sound confusing but it's actually quite straight forward.

The thoughts you focus on create the results you experience.

Focus on wanting - you'll experience wanting.

Focus on having - you'll experience HAVING!

So it's up to you whether you wanna risk acting a bit loco or if you wanna be like everybody else who spend most of their life wanting what's theirs for the taking!

The next time you think positive - don't say you want anything - say you HAVE EVERYTHING!

Stop Worrying!

If you're worrying about whether or not you're going to achieve all those inspiring goals you've set for yourself - STOP WORRYING!

Many of us think we may be making a mistake with our lives. We look at the jobs we're working at and we think it's the wrong job. We look at our lifestyle and we think it's the wrong lifestyle. We look at the results we get from our hard work and we think it's the wrong results. This naturally leads us to worry about whether or not we're actually going to achieve the goals we've set for ourselves.

The truth is...

Worrying won't get you anywhere! Worrying is literally you doubting your future. It's you fearing about your future. And although you  think you have good reason to worry - the truth is all the worrying in the world won't get you anywhere!

Instead, you need to focus on NOW! Focus on what you can do RIGHT NOW to help you achieve your goals. Focus on the thoughts and feelings you are experiencing right now and think about what you want to change in your PRESENT environment! 

You can't do anything about your past (I'm sure you've heard that before!) and the future isn't here yet! Worrying is literally you saying "I'm not sure I can achieve my goals!"

And if you keep worrying - you keep telling yourself "I'm NOT SURE, I'm NOT SURE, I'm NOT SURE!"

So stop worrying and start focusing on more positive thoughts. Focus on the baby steps you can take to change your life. Small things like a positive poster and positive statements can help. When I start to worry I usually start to plan what I'm gonna do over the next few weeks to help me achieve my goals. More often than not, my plan just involves small baby steps but at least it's one baby step closer to my goal!

What's your baby step?

Find what works...

As you read this blog and as you surf other self help websites and read books that offer advice on how you can improve your life, you might find yourself thinking that some of it is really just rubbish!

I know I spent a good deal of last week writing about The Law of Attraction and The Secret. I must have sounded like a cheer leader for The Secret but the truth is I'm not its biggest fan! For one - I haven't got the short skirt and pom-poms! But just to prove that I'm not a lil girl who started a blog because she was infatuated by a book, I ended my week by looking for articles that criticised The Secret and which disagreed with a lot of what was preached in the book. I found a few blogs that thought The Secret was more a money making machine than it was a self help message. Some critics questioned the bold claims made in the book and said it was all made up. I must admit I do agree that some of the facts of the book were quite dodgy and yes - I too think that some of the stuff must have been made up!

However instead of just abandoning my pom-poms, I came to a realization that I would like to share with you...

We will come across many new concepts and theories on our path towards self awareness. The key is not to follow the judgement of others on whether or not something is RIGHT or WRONG. Instead, we need to develop the ability to observe new information and to judge for ourselves whether or not it WORKS for us. We need to learn to look beyond the labels of 'right' and 'wrong' and to see whether or not something may work specifically for us. For instance, The Secret may have contained some dodgy information and there are people out there who can prove parts of the book which are untrue. However, I have observed it's core message which is The Law of Attraction and I have seen it work for me in my life so I gladly choose to apply it for myself. 

Challenge the new information you learn and you'll find that you will start to have a deeper sense of believe for the new knowledge you acquire. You yourself will be able to determine whether something is right or wrong FOR YOU! You will start to develop your own set of believes that work specifically for you. 

If there's one thing I've learnt it is that one advice can't work for everyone. Different people need different solutions and the only way for you to find your solution is to determine for yourself what works for you. If you follow what's been labeled right or wrong then you'll just end up like everyone else!

The next time someone shares new knowledge that challenges your current belief system, have the strength and maturity to ask yourself if that new knowledge may be the little bit of change you were looking for in your life. If it isn't - then move on. If it is - then adopt it and look for more. Don't wait for what your parents, teachers or society think of it. Decide for yourself if it works!

Here's a link for one of the blogs that criticised The Secret. I really enjoyed reading it. Read for yourself and decide whether or not The Law of Attraction works for you :)

http://positivesharing.com/2007/03/the-law-of-attraction-is-real-the-movie-the-secret-is-fake/

Let it be, let it be...

If you think you've got it bad and life isn't cutting you any slack you might be wrong. Very often we ourselves don't know what is right or wrong for us. We don't really know if we're working in the right jobs or working at the right relationships. We judge our circumstances the same way others judge it. Sometimes it's best to just let things be and to see how they turn out for themselves. If you're putting positive thoughts out then the Universe has it's own way of giving you what's best for you :) Don't be so quick to judge!

Here's a story I found on the web that proves that we may not know whats good or bad for us.

This classic positive Taoist story is the tale of the fortunate farmer.


As the story goes, one day this farmer's horse ran away. His neighbor hears of his bad news and comes over to commiserate. "I hear that you lost your horse. That is bad news and bad luck."

"Well, who knows?" said the farmer, "Maybe it is and maybe it isn't."

Well, the next day the farmer's horse returns to his stable, but it has brought along a drove of wild horses it has befriended and who make themselves at home.

The neighbor across the way can't believe what he hears about his friend. He decides to come over and congratulate him.

"This is such goodness," he says. "Well, who knows," said the farmer, "Maybe it is and maybe it isn't."

The next day the farmer's son decided to ride one of the new wild horses, to break it in. As luck would have it, the son was thrown from the horse and broke his leg.

Of course, upon hearing this sad news, their neighbor came over to offer condolences. "This is such sad thing," he said. "Your son has broken his leg. This is bad news." "Well, who knows," said the farmer. "Maybe it is and maybe it isn't."

There were more well wishes and commiseration from his neighbor. The farmer offers this Taoist wisdom, "Who knows what is good and bad?"

On the following day soldiers came by commandeering and army. They took sons from most of the surrounding farms, but because the farmer's son had a broken leg, he could not go and was spared. And well, maybe it was good news and maybe it wasn't.

Give a lil'

When you're sitting at the mamak this weekend and the blind pak cik comes by with his 20cents tissue paper, be sure to give him a dollar or two!

Most of us guard our money with out lives and shoo off anybody who might want a bit of it because we don't believe we have enough to give away. We believe we DON'T HAVE ENOUGH MONEY!

And what does the law of attraction say? - Believe in ABUNDANCE! Think ABUNDANCE!

When you give something to someone - you send very strong vibrations into the universe that you have lots of what you're giving out. Rich people donate because they believe they have an abundance of money, poor people don't because they believe they have very little money. Rich people send out thoughts of abundance and those thoughts attract more abundance to them. Poor people send out thoughts of scarcity and those thoughts attract scarcity to them!

The rich get richer, the poor get poorer!

The best part is, even though you're only giving that blind pak cik a dollar, you're emotions and thoughts when you donate that dollar is very much the same to the emotions or thoughts you would have if you were donating 10 dollars! It doesn't matter how much of money you donate - instead it matters the emotions and feelings involved when you donate that dollar! If you're thinking - "Oh God, I'm only donating this because I have nothing in the bank. I hope I get something back through the Law of Attraction..." then however much you donate won't matter because the underlying thought that contributes to the donation is that of fear and scarcity.

On the other hand, if you donate and think "Money is in abundance, this dollar is nothing!" then the underlying thought is of abundance and that's what you'll be sending out into the Universe :)

So go crazy and give your one dollars away! Everytime you see a donation box - DONATE - because hey... MONEY IS IN ABUNDANCE RIGHT? 

Try it - you'll be doing both the needy and yourselve a BIG favour!

So what if I'm an ASS?

I spent yesterday morning giving a career talk to the students of my old boarding school, KTJ. I was asked to focus on talking about technical career stuff but in true 'Navin Style' the talk ended up being a wannabe motivational talk with me sweating like a pig at the end of it. There's something I said in that talk that I wanted to share with you guys today...

As I spoke to the 50 odd students about what they needed to do to start a business of their own I myself came to realize something that has made a huge difference in my life. That something is the fact that - I've always been mighty proud of my goals. While most people hid their goals from the people around them, I've always shouted mine out loud,  knowing that I could very well make a fool of myself if I didn't achieve it.

For instance 4 years ago I decided that I was going to write a book. I told everyone I knew about my big dreams to become an author and I was very well aware that if I didn't write that book - I would look like a complete ass for dreaming so big. True enough it's been 4 years and I'm without a book. 

But the truth is - I don't care! I don't care if people think I'm the wannabe author / personal development guy who couldn't even write his own book! It's still my goal and I'll still shout it out to anyone who will hear me.

I know that no matter what anyone else has to say - WE have to believe in our goals! We need to be proud of our goals. There must be no doubt at all that we'll achieve our goals because when we have BELIEVE that strong - the thoughts we release into the Universe will definitely be positive thoughts that will in turn attract positive results!

Besides, what do we care what other people think of us? The only way to be different is to BE DIFFERENT! Normal people fear shouting out their goals and curb themselves from fully believing in their goals because they FEAR what others might think of them. The people who are DIFFERENT couldn't care less what others think of them. 

There are some who say - "I don't care what others think of me BUT why do I have to tell everyone about my goal? It's so egoistic for god's sake". My answer is simple. When you shout out your goal and tell everyone about it - you allow people to help you achieve your goal. By sharing your goal with others you cast a bigger net to catch onto opportunities that others might be able to offer to help you achieve your goal!

Doubting your goal is you doubting yourselve. It's you putting negative energy out into the universe. Hiding your goal may be and very often is - a sign of self doubt!

I suppose in the end you really have to ask yourselve... Would you rather be the few that dared to dream or would you rather be part of the mass of people that were too chicken to?

I EMPOWER MILLIONS OF PEOPLE! -that's for all the world to know and for me to risk looking like an ass- :)

Move your body!

Most of us don't realize the power our body has in determining the way we feel. Our feelings - whether happy or sad - are usually determined by our daily experiences. Your experiences at work, uni or at home determine how you feel. I think it's quite safe to say that no one wants to feel sad or depressed...

So here's a quick fix to your gloomy problem. 

Try experimenting with your body movements to see if it has an effect on the way you feel. Try forcing yourself to smile or try punching the air like a crazy person. You'll realize that your body movements have a direct effect on the way you feel! Smile and you'll suddenly feel happier. Jump and you'll suddenlty feel lighter! :) Some people say, that changing your body movements on purpose is just being fake. My advice is, if you don't wanna feel happy don't change your body movements. However, if you want to get out of depression or sadness and can't find a way then the right body movement just might do the trick!

Here's something that I know works for me and I'm sure will work for you.

When I first started my training firm I went for a lot of appointments to meet corporate HR Managers. I was 20 and the thought of meeting seasoned managers who were probably my dad's age scared the living daylights out of me. So when I felt less confident, I made a small change to my body.

I realized that when I didn't feel confident I stooped and crouched my shoulders a bit. So when I needed that added confidence, I simply made it a point to look up, arch my back, and pull my shoulders back (just a tiny tiny bit). No one noticed the difference in my body but it made me feel great. It made me feel confident!

Try it!

I'm down 130 bucks but up a whole lotta belief!

Last weekend Sash and I decided to pledge that we wouldn't use the F word anymore! We figured it'd be a good first step towards becoming more civil human beings. Hence, we decided that everytime one of us succummbed to the natural urge of cursing we would be fined 10 bucks!

We shook on it and agreed!

3 days later I'm down  130 ringgit and I've cleverly kept it under the radar to avoid paying up! 

So I'm asking myself - why is it so hard for me to stop cursing? It could be because I'm a juvenile delinquent that's just rotten by nature... Which is most probably what i am...

ORRRRR....

maybe (and this is not me justifying...) it's because I don't BELIEVE I need to stop cursing. Consciously I know I want to stop cursing but deep down inside me I don't believe it's important to stop. Deep down inside I believe it's perfectly fine to curse as long as it's in moderation and it's not in front of my future mother in law!

So even though i consciously want to stop (trust me i do - it's F****** expensive!) I can't, because deep down inside I believe I don't have to.

This whole to curse or not to curse problem got me thinking deeper....

Maybe the whole "if I don't believe in something I can't change my behavior" concept also applies to other parts of my life? 

For instance, I've been trying to think positively about my physique lately but it's not easy. It's tough to think that I have a superb physique when I look in the mirror and all I can see are those HUGE LOVE HANDLES staring back at me! I wake up every morning and WHAM there they are saying good morning in the mirror!

So how the heck do expect me to be postive about my physique or about my bank account when it's staring at me that things are in a shitty state! So after lots of thinking I'm convinced that I can't think positively unless I believe in positivity. To put it differently, I can't be positive about my physique unless I truly believe I have a great physique.

I need to trick myself into believing that I have a superb physique regardless of  whoever I see saying 'hello' to me in the mirror. Once I get that believe in me, the positive thinking comes naturally and then the Law of Attraction takes over!

I need to truly believe that I have a great physique before i can start thinking positive about my physique. And the only way to change my believe is to keep bombarding it with positive input! That's why the poster and the positive statements are so important!

You don't have to believe in the poster or the statements yet but if you keep looking at it - you'll unconsciously develop new positive believes. And when you unconsciously develop new positive believes you unconsciously develop new positive thinking as well. Make sense?

Once you've got the positive thinking (unconsciously) going - just leave it to the Law of Attraction to deliver your goals!

As for me; I'm already starting to believe that empowering 1,000,000 might not be so tough after all :) I've been looking at my poster and saying my positive statements out loud the whole day.

Funnily enough, I had an opportunity to empower someone today. A client of my sales staff has a nephew whose going overseas in Oct. He's looking to gain some exposure before he leaves and they're asking if he can gain some experience by joining my team. Maybe I'll hire him and expose him to all the craziness that happens in my company! It might empower him :)

The Loser Syndrome!

A lot of people I know believe that they need to work hard to achieve their goals. They’ve been taught to study hard, get a good degree, apply for a good job and to work their butts off so that they can grab the next office promotion. I guess that’s not a bad way to live...

The problem is I look around and realize that this ‘work hard’ formula isn’t working for everybody. There are a lot of people out there who are busting their butts only to end up disappointed with their lives. They're not making the money they deserve nor are they getting the appreciation they want.

So I propose a concept called the ‘The Loser Syndrome’ to shed some light on this matter.

I believe hard work is definitely necessary but if you are a victim of the Loser syndrome then all the hard work in the world can’t help you!

The Loser Syndrome is very easily explained. Over the years we’ve all developed a little bit of a loser mentality within us. Some have it more prominently than others but most of us have at least a little bit of it. The loser syndrome is evident in you whenever you think you can’t do something or if you think you’re not good enough to do something.

If you’ve caught yourself wanting something but ended up not pursuing it, if you’ve ever thought you’re not ready to take up an opportunity or if you ever felt you were not good enough to compete for something you’re a victim of the Loser Syndrome. Simply put - if you don't believe in yourself - that's a sign of the Loser Syndrome.

So why is it we have this Loser Syndrome?

The reason is simple. Somewhere in our past we had parents, teachers or friends who told us we couldn’t do something or that we weren’t good enough. They weren't trying to be mean! They just didn't want us to get hurt. Unfortunately while they were 'looking out' for us they unwillingly planted a lil bit of self doubt in our heads. They made us question whether or not we really were good enough... 

When we were young we very quickly learned how to judge ourselves in our pursuits and when we failed an exam or made a mistake we thought lesser of ourselves. Our parents and society put so much of weight on how well we did in our exams so much so that we started to believe that how well we did on a test paper determined how good we were in real life! All those years of negative judgement slowly developed an underlying belief within ourselves that we were in fact – not good enough.

So when you suffer from the Loser Syndrome all the hard work you put in goes to waste becomes the truth is - deep down inside, you don’t believe you’re gonna make it. You don’t believe you’re good enough or strong enough to be the one who makes it to the top! You work hard but deep within you, you don’t believe you have what it takes to succeed. Nothing’s gonna change unless you get rid of the Loser Syndrome for good!

How do you get rid of the little bit of loser syndrome in you?

Small things like the poster and your positive statement help because it sends positive inputs that help you built new positive beliefs about yourself. You don’t realize it but every time you look at that poster with your dream on it and say your positive statement you get rid of a little bit of your loser syndrome. Looking at your poster helps you belief that what’s on that poster is actually possible. Saying you've achieved your dream out loud works just the same. You start convincing yourself that you're indeed strong enough and good enough! Both the poster and the positive statement help you believe that YOU CAN ACTUALLY DO IT!

And when you believe deep down inside that YOU CAN ACTUALLY DO IT - nothing in this world can stop you!

The next time you think you want to switch jobs, take on a project, confront a colleague or even start your own business ask yourself whether you're gonna let the loser syndrome take control or are you gonna LIVE YOUR LIFE and be all you can be?

Finding the right words!

There you go. From now onwards, that's the poster that's gonna be everywhere I go. I always wanted to empower people so i figured I'd think big and empower millions.

I added a special positive statement for myself as well - I AM SO HAPPY I EMPOWER MILLIONS OF PEOPLE!

So whenever I look at that poster on my desktop wallpaper, at my office, by my bedside or on my handphone I'll repeat that positive statement to myself to put out more positive energy into the universe! 

Most people think that thoughts are the only way to create positive energy when in fact words are much stronger. When you say something out loud the positive vibrations you send into the universe are more powerful than thoughts. My sales team practices this daily and the results they have been experiencing are beyond belief. 

Remember to put a positive emotion before your statement like 'I am so happy' because emotion is a strong tool in creating positive vibrations! Notice how when you're feeling happy everything around you seems a little bit better than it usually is? That's the power of emotion!

If you're goal is money related you can try the statement below to go with your poster...

I AM SO HAPPY MONEY AND EVERYTHING GOOD IS IN ABUNDANCE FOR ME!

If you plan on creating your own unique statement make sure, its a positive statement. Don't say 'I am so happy I have lost 5 kgs'. (That's negative) Instead, say 'I am so happy I have a super physique' (that's positive!).

Evidence of The Law of Attraction!

For those of us who need to 'see to believe' here's prove that The Law of Attraction really works!

I've got a younger brother who has always obsessed about going to the UK for a holiday. So last year he put the Law of Attraction to the test and printed out a poster that said 'I am so happy I have successfully achieved my holiday to the UK!' He put the poster up in his cubicle at work and after a few weeks didn't think anything of it. It was just another poster on the wall! Here's the pic of his poster...

A few weeks ago out of the blue he looks up AirAsiaX and finds some cheap tickets and makes the decision to go to London. He's forgotten about the poster because it's been so long since he's paid attention to it so nothing clicks at first. But when he goes back to the office where his poster is, he's shocked. He looks at it closely and the date written on the bottom right corner takes him by surprise. Just below his signature it's written 18/3/2008...

The date he made the decision to go to the UK? - 18/3/2009!

So I'm going to take that as a clear signal that The Law of Attraction works! He put a thought out there and made a poster about travelling to the UK and it came through. I definitely want in on the action. So here's what I'm gonna do today!

1. Decide on a Goal

2. Use the infinite powers of google to find pics for  poster

3. Print out my poster 

4. Put it up in my office and by my bedside

5. Go a lil crazy and make it my laptop and handphone wallpaper and screen saver

I have nothing to lose. I watched the video of 'The Secret' and this real estate guy said he had a pic of his dream house and years later after totally forgetting about the pic, he built the house of his dreams - totally unaware that the house he built was exactly like the one in his poster!

So I'm gonna give it a shot and see if it works. If it doesn't so what? I don't lose a penny!

The Law of Attraction - Pirated Version

The BUTT Theory!

There is a small difference between successful people and average people. Successful people are the people who look at their butt in the mirror and say "Hellooo Sexy!". Average people on the other hand are the people who look at their butt in the mirror and  go "Hellooo Hippo!"

I know it sounds silly but it's true! 

Successful people will look at a saggy butt and say "How do I get that butt to perk up?" 

Average people on the other hand look at a saggy butt and feel like crap about themselves! They pile on the self misery and add a topping of guilt on it! They're famous for either blaming themselves or feeling sorry for themselves! And after all that blaming and sorry feelings they head down to KFC for a big bucket of Fried Chicken to make themselves feel better!

Successful people know that blaming yourself or feeling sorry for yourself only makes you feel worse about yourselve. It has no positive outcome at all. So instead of judging themselves, they observe their situation and take responsibility for it. They look for ways to become better and always look for the positive and not the negative. They know how to complement themselves when they deserve a compliment  and know how to lead themselves when they know they need to change. They don't indulge in sorry feelings or in self blaming. They believe that nothing's gonna change unless they change first and there's no use investing in negative emotions because they only create negative results. They focus on the positive and not the negative!

So the question is; what do you say when you look at your butt in the mirror?

1mm

Ever played a bit of Golf?

I watched Tony Robbins on youtube the other day and he was speaking to his audience about his first golf lesson. He said that on the first day of his lesson he was hitting the golf ball as hard as he could and every ball he swung at was going off target. He got really frustrated and turned to his trainer for advice. What his trainer said shocked him... 

"Tony, you're just off by 1mm! If you just get your club to hit the ball by 1mm to the side, you'll get your shot right! You won't even have to hit it so hard!"... "1mm?" Tony thought. Here he was huffing and puffing to change his game and get his ball on target and all he needed to do was change his swing by a milimeter? Tony took the advice and to his astonishment that 1mm change made such an immense difference! His whole game changed from just a tiny 1mm change of his stroke. Instead of landing in the ditch or in some pond his ball was landing on target!

He used that example to demonstrate the power of a little but of change. Most people think they have to make huge changes to their lifestyles in order to achieve their dreams. They think that it's going to take a lot of hard work to buy their dream home or dream car. What they don't realize is, more often than not it's the small changes that make the big difference in our lives. How many times have you seen the guy who works his butt off at work end up like everybody else? He tries and tries and tries and ends up bitter and frustrated! Discipline and hard work can only take you so far. We all know deep down inside that there's something else that really makes the big difference and that sets us apart from the norm. 

That something is only 1mm!

There's a lot of power in a little bit of change if you know what it is you need to change. Most people want to change but don't know what is the right 1mm to change. So they go around trying every other thing and end up exhausted and frustrated. The key to success is to find out what your 1mm is. The right 1mm will make a huge difference in your life! 

I started this blog in hopes that it would help you find your 1mm!